January 6, Have questions? They feel they are losing their husbands or they are worried because their husband is often angry and irritable. Sometimes they are in my office because the husband had an affair, or because he said he wanted a divorce. I start the therapy process and eventually it comes out there has been very little sex for months or years. It means something is off. The longer you ignore this the harder the punch will be when you are forced to deal. Every single time, the wife is surprised…. She admits knowing it was a problem for him.
I feel a need to address equally women and men on this affair, because it DOES matter. Both air very strongly about this part of their marriage. But it also addresses what it is like for the man to be refused. It is a gigantic issue, if your femininity life is unfulfilled.
After my friend, Suzanne, arrived at my door, furious and in tears, afterwards finding husband, Michael, was having an affair, she was no doubt in quest of sisterly support for her divorce plans. The consequences of men being sex-starved by their wives are deeply disquieting. For such a sexual drought has a profoundly negative effect on our society. For Suzanne, in her anger, was ignoring a large elephant all the rage the room: the reason her await then decent husband had been ambitious to an affair was simple. Afterwards months of frustration, he was affected to seek relief elsewhere. For such a sexual drought has a deeply negative effect on our society — fracturing families and potentially leading en route for violence and crime. Sexually starved men are more likely to visit prostitutes, view pornography and, in the most awful cases, even molest other women.
A spreadsheet with three columns headed Appointment, Sex? Two writers give their thoughts on this approach to gender relations. As his data shows, this man's wife has, quite rightly, got her way on all of the 27 occasions that he suggested sex along with her during the study period. He got his way just three times, when she consented. Besides his animal frustration, the husband is also undergoing a cruel mental torture. As we see from his wife's many excuses, in a marriage sex is all the time rescheduled rather than refused.